Introduction

.Every person struggles with behaviors they don’t like. Angry reactions, withdrawal, avoidance, lust, overthinking, people-pleasing, defensiveness, and addiction-like cycles feel automatic and confusing. But nothing is random. Every behavior follows a precise internal chain. When you understand this chain, you can interrupt it and break it.

The principles that explain this chain are spiritual truths about the heart and how it functions. Behavior science confirms these truths and explains the mechanisms—how motives form, how beliefs shape emotion, how emotions direct thought, and how repeated cycles create automatic patterns.

“For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.”
—Proverbs 23:7

Putting This Struggle in Perspective

When you repeatedly do things you do not want to do, it is not simply weakness. It is a sign of an internal system operating outside its original design. You were created to operate with pure Godly love, in truth perfectly aligned with God’s intentions, as a partner with Him in ongoing creation on this earth. When the heart is disordered—when self-centered love replaces God-centered love—the system becomes distracted and focused internally which diverts God’s love and builds layers and layers of unintended actions and reactions that work against Gods creation and harm ourselves and others.

Behavior science explains that most actions come from automatic patterns stored in the emotional brain. Scripture explains the same truth: patterns flow from the heart, and the heart directs the entire life.

“Keep your heart with all diligence, for out of it spring the issues of life.”
—Proverbs 4:23 

The Chain That Produces Undesired Behavior

Here is the sequence that leads to undesirable behavior. Each stage naturally produces the next, just as a seed produces a plant. The earlier you interrupt the chain, the easier it becomes to break the behavior.

1. Root Love (Self vs. God)

The deepest orientation of the heart. You will either act from love of God (serving God and His kingdom in obedience, trust, and holiness) or a love of self (serving your own interests through comfort, ego, control, safety) . Your heart is creative force, the root love determines the entire direction of the chain your heart drives.

2. Lust Channel (Eyes, Flesh, Pride)

If the heart is not rooted in Love of God and oriented to find satisfaction in serving Him, It will be oriented internally towards itself and will be looking for a source of satisfaction somewhere else.  There are three pathway through which self-centered love looks for love – Through thoughts in the mind focused on things the Eyes can see, Through feelings in the Heart focused on cravings of your physical earthly body. And through the Will which is trying to decide how you fit into this world.  These are powerful craving systems: bodily cravings, visual cravings, or prideful cravings. Scripture calls them lusts; neuroscience calls them reward pathways. This is the reality of our fallen heart “looking for love in all the wrong places” as the song goes.

3. Ungodly Love (Specific Temptation Target Object)

The heart will pursue the lust paths until if finds a target,  something to focus on, A concrete substitute for God.  This target object becomes the thing you desire: comfort, recognition, control, things, money, escape, praise, pleasure. This is the moment your heart says: “I need this to be okay.”

4. Ungodly Belief / Lie

A lie forms that justifies the desire: “I won’t be safe unless… I need this to feel better… I won’t be respected unless…” Beliefs generate emotions, and emotions generate action.

5. Ungodly Emotion (Energy)

The lie creates emotional force: fear, anger, shame, irritation, envy, anxiety, resentment. Emotions take control of your attention and push you toward action.

6. Ungodly Thoughts / Inner Voice

Your mind starts rehearsing narratives: accusations, justifications, fantasies, internal arguments, revenge scenarios. This is the brain preparing for behavior—mental rehearsal. If these thoughts are constrained by God’s truth, anything off track will be noticed and corrected,  If they are not constrained by a framework of Gods word and go out of bounds, they will trigger unhealthy emotions and build internal energy looking for a way to escape into action. 

7. Ungodly Decision

A choice is made—usually quickly and automatically—to serve the desire rather than obey truth. Decision is often subconscious unless interrupted.

8. Ungodly Action (Tangible Sin)

The visible behavior: words, reactions, habits, responses. The undesired action is simply the physical release of energy from the chain above it.

9. Ungodly Fruit (Undesired Consequences)

Ungodly behaviors have consequences that adversely impact your ability to serve God’s intended role for you. They either distract you, or impede your ability to function, or ruin relationships, or cut you off God, or cut you off from society: Inner turmoil, shame, relational conflict, spiritual dullness, or strengthened bondage. Consequences either reinforce the cycle or motivate change.

Where Does True Transformation Begin?

Transformation does not begin with behavior. It does not begin with willpower or trying harder. It begins with intention—a genuine desire to change. Intention expresses itself through obedience, even before your emotions or thoughts agree.

“Do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind…”
—Romans 12:2

Behavior science confirms this: taking a small action in a new direction begins re-routing neural pathways. Spiritually, obedience aligns your heart with truth, and the Spirit uses your obedience to reshape your motives, beliefs, desires, and emotional patterns.

“Make the tree good and its fruit good…”
—Matthew 12:33

Therefore:

• Transformation begins with intention.
• Intention expresses itself through obedience.
• Obedience allows the Spirit to renew the heart.
• A renewed heart produces new behavior.

“If you know these things, blessed are you if you do them.”
—John 13:17

Breaking the Chain at Each Stage

You don’t have to wait for the behavior to happen. You can interrupt the chain early:

• Root Love – Recommit to honoring God above comfort, ego, or control.
• Lust Channel – Notice which craving is activated (eyes, flesh, pride).
• Temptation – Name the ungodly love trying to take over.
• Ungodly Belief – Identify the specific lie you are believing.
• Ungodly Emotion – Label the emotion; naming reduces its control.
• Ungodly Thought – Notice ungodly thoughts, Replace destructive scripts with truth.
• Decision – Pause long enough to choose obedience.
• Action – Practice the desired righteous behavior.
• Life Fruit / Consequence – Reflect, notice opportunities to do better,  and adjust for next time.

“Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.”
—Galatians 5:16

Breaking one link weakens the entire chain.

How Can I Apply This?

Journaling with Jesus is very effective:

Key Questions To Ask:

• Lord, What undesired behavior shall we fix today?
• What Ungodly love is driving it?
• What Ungodly belief is enabling it?
• What Godly truth will cut it off?

Then:

• • Repent for the undesired behavior, for pursuing ungodly loves, and for believing ungodly lies
  • Declare the Godly belief that guides us in the right direction,
  • Accept Jesus’ finished work on the cross,  by his stripes you are healed, by his blood you are cleaned/forgiven.
  • Crucify your flesh, deny self serving agendas and emotions and pick up your cross.
  • Put off the old man and his habits and behaviors
  • Put on the new man renewed in Christ.

There are specific strategies to defeat each of the three lusts –   

Lust of the Eyes

Lust of the eyes works in the mind, trying to build your identity based on things you can see – Give the mind something different to focus on

Stop studying and admiring (worshiping) things you do not really need at this point in your journey.

Focus on things above instead. – your identity and purpose, gods promises.

Declare your identity as a Born Again Child of God, Fleshly sin crucified with Christ, old ways buried in the grace, New man raised into new life.

Lust of the Flesh

Lust of the flesh works through the heat trying to pursue feleings, building up pleasures and avoiding pains..

Defeating the flesh requires discipline – Reading the word of God daily, Fasting

Pride of life

Pride of life work through the Will to build up our identity relative to others or put others down to minimize them

– above God and above others. 

Declare Submittal and trusting God

Focus on God’s Word

“Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path.”
—Psalm 119:105

• Romans 12 – Renewing the mind
• Proverbs 4:20-23 – Pay Attention To Gods Words
• Colossians 3:16 – Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly
• Galatians 5 – Walking by the Spirit
• John 15 – Abiding in Christ

Where to Learn More

Many excellent resources are available, here are a few

• Dan Mohler – Put Off The Old – Put On the New
• Mark Virkler – Hearing God’s voice and inner healing