Trials Squeeze The Real You Out. What Do You Look Like?
Introduction
We often pray for strength, wisdom, and spiritual maturity—but rarely do we welcome the very process that produces these traits: TRIALS.
Life in this world is but a fleeting moment—a temporary stage on which our eternal character is forged. We are “strangers and pilgrims” here (1 Peter 2:11), and every challenge we face is designed not simply to test our resolve, but to deepen our likeness to Christ. In this brief sojourn, God’s ultimate aim is to develop within us an unshakable faith and a purity of motive that will bring Him glory in this life and serve us both well in the eternal life to come.
Our human nature is inherently two-faced. On the surface we present smiles, good works, and holy professions, all carefully polished for public view. Yet beneath that veneer can lurk pride, resentment, or self-serving ambitions. James 1:8 warns us that the double-minded person is “unstable in all his ways.” Trials act like a vice, tightening around us until those hidden motives and emotions are squeezed out into the open. What once lay concealed in our hearts now stands exposed for inspection before God and before ourselves.
What comes out when you are squeezed? Has Jesus formed in you? Do you bring Him Glory when you are under pressure? Can others see Jesus in your words and actions when you are under pressure? If not, you have an opportunity.
Consider how a diamond must endure intense pressure to reveal its brilliance. In the same way, trials pressure us to the point of honesty. When the waters rise—whether through financial hardship, relational betrayal, or health crises—our true colors emerge. Do we trust God’s provision, or do we panic and grasp for control? Do we forgive when wronged, or do we count the wrongs and harbor bitterness? These moments strip away pretense, allowing us to see the real condition of our inner souls.
There is purpose in this exposure: Repentance and Renewal. Once the true inner you is laid bare, you have a choice—to harden your heart, double down and continue on as you were or to bow before the Lord, confessing your hidden faults and inviting His sanctifying work. As Job declared, “when He has tested me, I shall come forth as gold” (Job 23:10). Trials, then, are not simply hardships to endure—they are God’s refining fire, revealing the real you so that, through repentance and grace, you might emerge purer, stronger, and more able to flow serve His purpose in this life and the next.
What Are Trials?
Trials are the challenging situations that test our faith, character, and endurance. They can come in many forms:
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- Financial struggles that stretch our trust in God’s provision.
- Health issues that test our hope and patience.
- Betrayal or rejection that press us to forgive and heal.
- Loss, grief, or loneliness that cause us to cry out for God’s presence.
Are trials optional? No, trials are inevitable. It is not a matter of “If” you will experience trials and tribulations it is “When”.
“…count it all joy when you fall into various trials,” James 1:2
“…In the world you will have tribulation…” John 16:33
Do you deserve trials? What brought this on? God’s greatest commandments are to love God with all your heart, soul, mind and strength and your neighbor as your self. To love God with ALL your heart is a lot; do you truly love God with all your heart? Are you fully submitted to Him? Do you trust Him with everything? Have you crucified your fleshly desires and separated from all the ways of the world? Are you fully dependent on Him for every aspect of your life? Do you live every second of your life to bring him Glory? If not, the devil has every right to administer consequences. Don’t think that God is doing this to you, Think that you opened the door by your thoughts, words and actions and the devil is taking advantage of the situation. Also know that God will work all things for Good if you are pursuing Him, and whateve rlemons you are experiencing may just turn into lemonade.
Trials aren’t really punishments, they are a more a learning process of truth or consequences;They are divine tools to help us recognize our weaknesses or shortcomings and grow. We are encouraged to embrace the trials we face as opportunities.
“My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience.” James 1:2-3
Why Are Trials Important?
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They Reveal Your True Nature
Trials don’t create your character; they reveal it. Like fire refines gold, hardship strips away the surface and shows what’s within. Pride, fear, doubt, or hidden strengths often emerge when pressure is applied.
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They Position You for Growth If You Are Ready And Willing
Just like building physical muscle through resistance training, You can’t build spiritual muscles without resistance. Trials stretch your faith and deepen your walk with God.
“We also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; and perseverance, character; and character, hope.” Romans 5:3-4
“But He knows the way that I take; when He has tested me, I shall come forth as gold.” — Job 23:10
How Do Trials Work?
Just as the refiner’s fire exposes every flaw in a piece of metal, the fires of trial bring every hidden impurity in our hearts to the surface. In ancient metallurgy, raw ore was crushed, mixed with flux, and then heated in a crucible until it melted. At first, the molten metal is cloudy and dark, shot through with slag and dross from the mine and the furnace. But as the temperature climbs higher and higher, those impurities—fractions of stone, iron, and other unneeded elements—float up in the liquid metal, forming a scum on the surface. The refiner then skims away that scum, watching carefully until every trace of discoloration is gone. What remains is pure, gleaming gold or silver—worthy of minting, of jewelry, of honor.
Trials work in exactly the same way on our souls. Under the stress or “heat” of financial suffering, relational loss, or physical pain, the impurities of envy, fear, self-reliance, and hidden pride are liquefied by God’s intense love and His testing purposes. These once-buried vices—“the lusts of the flesh” that we thought hidden from all eyes—rise to the surface and are exposed in our thoughts and actions (Galatians 5:19–21). In that moment of exposure, we see just how much we depend on our own strength or seek approval from the world verses loving God, submitting our lives to Him, and seeking to glorify Him in all we do.
But the beauty of the refiner’s process is not simply in exposing the flaws; it is in removing them. As we recognize each flaw in our inner nature – each sin—each speck of dross—we have the opportunity to repent, to say Lord I recognize this flaw and no longer want it to be part of me, and ask the Lord to “skim” it away through confession and surrender (1 John 1:9). With each layer of impurity removed, our faith grows more steadfast, our motives become clearer, and our character is conformed more perfectly to Christ’s image. Just as the refiner watches the crucible and never allows the fire to cool until the metal is wholly refined, so God watches over us, never ceasing His loving discipline until we shine with the purity and brightness for which He intended us from eternity pa
How Do You Use Trials to Grow?
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Recognize When Your Flawed Inner Nature Becomes Exposed
Look for works of the flesh as you work through your challenges:
Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. Galatians 5:19-21
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| Pride | Bragging about achievements; Refusing help | “Pride goes before destruction, And a haughty spirit before a fall.” | Proverbs 16:18 |
| Selfish Ambition | Elevating Self, Stepping on coworkers; Hoarding resources | “Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.” | Philippians 2:3 |
| Idolatry | Worshiping something other than God: Work, Money, Things, Education, Title | “’You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your strength, and with all your mind,’ and ‘your neighbor as yourself.’” | Luke 10:27 |
| Unbelief / Doubt | Questioning God’s promises; Lack of prayer | “Immediately the father of the child cried out and said with tears, ‘Lord, I believe; help my unbelief!’” | Mark 9:24 |
| Fear | Sleepless nights; Paralysis in decision-making | “Fear not, for I am with you; Be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.” | Isaiah 41:10 |
| Anxiety | Chronic worry; Panic attacks | “Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.” | Philippians 4:6–7 |
| Contentions / Rivalry | Disagreements and strife when self centered emotions drive response to situations | “A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quiets contention.””He who is of a proud heart stirs up strife, But he who trusts in the Lord will be prospered.” | Proverbs 15:18Proverbs 28:25 |
| Anger | Yelling at loved ones; holding grudges | “Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath.” | Ephesians 4:26 |
| Impatience | Hasty decisions; Quick anger over delays; Your Will above God’s Will. | “But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.” | James 1:4 |
| Bitterness | Unforgiving attitude; Cynicism toward people | “See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble, and by this many become defiled.” | Hebrews 12:15 |
| Murder with Words | Speaking Poorly of Someone | But I say to you that whoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment….whoever says, ‘You fool!’ shall be in danger of hell fire. | Matthew 5:21-22 |
| Unforgiveness | Refusing to speak to someone; Holding grudges | “For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.” | Matthew 6:14–15 |
| Envy | Resentment of others’ success; Gossip | “For where envying and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there.” | James 3:16 |
| Lust | Objectifying others; Pornography use | “Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.” | 1 Corinthians 6:18 |
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Lean into God’s Word
Let Scripture be your anchor. Seek to understand God and the ways He works. Meditate and Work Through the following chain of scripture.
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Trials Serve a Purpose
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“My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.” James 1:2–4
“…we also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; and perseverance, character; and character, hope.” Romans 5:3–5
“In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while, if need be, you have been grieved by various trials, that the genuineness of your faith…may be found to praise, honor, and glory at the revelation of Jesus Christ.” 1 Peter 1:6–7
“But He knows the way that I take; when He has tested me, I shall come forth as gold.” Job 23:10
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God Promises to Help You
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“Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10
“Be strong and of good courage, do not fear nor be afraid of them; for the LORD your God, He is the One who goes with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you.” Deuteronomy 31:6
“…for He Himself has said, ‘I will never leave you nor forsake you.’ So we may boldly say: ‘The Lord is my helper; I will not fear. What can man do to me?’” Hebrews 13:5–6
“God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” Psalm 46:1
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Trust in the Lord
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“Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.” Proverbs 3:5–6
“Commit your way to the LORD, trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass.” Psalm 37:5
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Yield Your Will to the Lord
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“Your kingdom come. Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven.” Matthew 6:10
“Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Do not look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others Philippians 2:3-4
“…present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind…” Romans 12:1–2
“Be still, and know that I am God…” Psalm 46:10
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Cast Your Burden on the Lord
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“Casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7
“Cast your burden on the LORD, and He shall sustain you; He shall never permit the righteous to be moved.” Psalm 55:22
“And He said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” 2 Corinthians 12:9
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Serve His Purpose & Shine Despite Struggles
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“…that you may become blameless and harmless, children of God without fault in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world…” Philippians 2:15
“We are hard pressed on every side, yet not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed.” 2 Corinthians 4:8–9
“And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God…” Romans 8:28
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Be Thankful at All Times
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“In everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” 1 Thessalonians 5:18
“…giving thanks always for all things to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ…” Ephesians 5:20
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Pray Always
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“Pray without ceasing.” 1 Thessalonians 5:17
“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God…will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6–7
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Spend Time In Communion With God
When God becomes real to you, your life will change. Be alone with Him. Talk to Him. Thank Him for what He has already done. Listen to Him.
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- Be Honest with God. Pour out your heart. Jesus cried out in Gethsemane—so can you. Transparency with God invites healing.
- Worship Through the difficulty. Be Thankful for everything you have. Worship silences the lies of the enemy and reminds your soul who’s in charge. Worship breaks chains—even in the midnight hour (Acts 16:25).
- Seek Wisdom. Ask What and How, Not Why. Instead of asking “Why me?”, ask
- “What are You wanting me to learn, Lord?”
- “What ungodly thoughts and beliefs am I holding that brought this on or are making things worse?
- “How can I imitate Christ and bring you glory through this?”
- How would you like me to approach this trial?
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Stay in Community
Surround yourself with believers who will pray with you, speak truth over you, and hold you up when you’re weary.
Where Can You Learn More?
These powerful voices teach deeply about trials, growth, and spiritual maturity:
Dan Mohler (Neck Ministries)– Known for clarity in God’s purpose through us, and transformation in our lives through communion with Him.
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- How to respond to trials: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=unLScVMtaXQ
- How to resist the devil: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=V1SGGTWiIcM
- Stand Firm On The Rock, Don’t Be Shaken By Life https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xDqTyFcq2A0
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Charles Stanley (In Touch Ministries) – Teaches on trusting God through adversity.
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- Wisdom for Life’s Trials – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vb7bY50_t_A
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Joyce Meyer – Often speaks on emotional healing and growing through difficult seasons.
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- Embrace your Trials to Produce Wisdom: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z9xQczCTatk
- Let Life’s Trials Make You Stronger: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pRReUQy1oJI
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Charles Spurgeon – “The Purpose of Trials” (sermon compilation)
Final Thought
God doesn’t waste pain. Every trial is an invitation to transformation. It’s in the fire that impurities burn off and true identity is revealed. So the next time you’re in a trial, remember: This isn’t to break you—it’s to build you. Let God use it to expose the real you, and grow you into the person He’s always known you could be.