Love Others As Jesus Loves You

Posted on December 9, 2025December 10, 2025 by jakirkgasser10439

Love Others As Jesus Loves You

Introduction

Relationships are kingdom assignments. Every person you encounter is an opportunity to reveal God’s heart and demonstrate His love. Jesus said the world would know we are His disciples by our love (John 13:35).

When relationships flourish, the kingdom advances. When they fracture, the enemy gains influence.

What Does Love Look Like? Jesus Shows Us

Jesus modeled perfect love:

He humbled Himself.
He absorbed injustice without retaliation.
He suffered for a higher cause.
He forgave His enemies while they tortured Him.
He sacrificed His life while we were still sinners.
He treated people with compassion, mercy, and truth.

How God Treats Us — The Source of Our Love

God treats us with patience, forgiveness, honor, truth wrapped in grace, and long-suffering love.

We are called to become conduits of the same love.

What Can Go Wrong in Relationships?

Relationships break down through harsh reactions, insecurity, assumptions, control, unforgiveness, withdrawal, pride, and self-protection.

These behaviors flow from ungodly beliefs, lies, and identity patterns in our old fallen, flesh led self

Fallen Me vs. Renewed Me — A Behavioral Self-Test

A majority of relationship problems are rooted in our fallen nature. Our heart is focused on serving ourselves rather than serving God and his kingdom and that flaw sets up a chain reaction of effects in our mind and our will that cause significant problems. The easiest way to discern the state of your heart is to examine your behaviors. Jesus taught that “a tree is known by its fruit,” meaning our outward responses reveal the internal beliefs, motives, and loves that drive us. The table below offers a simple way to see whether you are operating from the flesh (fallen patterns) or from the Spirit (renewed patterns rooted in love and truth). These contrasts will help you identify where transformation is needed and where God is ready willing and able to transform you when your are ready.

Area of Life	Fallen Me (Old Nature)	Renewed Me (Christlike Nature)
Communication	interrupts, accuses, reacts defensively	listens well, responds gently, speaks life and truth
Conflict	withdraws, escalates, retaliates	pursues peace, forgives quickly, seeks unity
Emotional Posture	anxious, irritable, easily offended	patient, secure in Christ, gracious
View of Others	assumes motives, sees threats	believes the best, sees God’s image in people
Self-Protection	puts up walls, avoids vulnerability	practices humility, openness, and connection
Control	manipulates, pressures, demands certainty	trusts God, releases outcomes, submits desires
Identity Source	insecurity, shame, comparison	grounded in acceptance and love in Christ
Expectations	demands others meet emotional needs	communicates needs, gives freely, forgives failures
Emotional Responses	blames, criticizes, keeps score	blesses, encourages, lets go of offense
Relational Goal	“protect me,” “prove me right,” “meet my needs”	“love others,” “bring unity,” “reflect Jesus”

Reflection Questions:

– Which column describes me more often for each area?
– What patterns do I see?
– What one behavior is God inviting me to replace first?

Six Foundational Lies That Damage Relationships

Before behaviors surface, before words are spoken, and before conflict erupts, something deeper is at work: beliefs. Every relationship problem is rooted in a lie about God, about ourselves, or about others. These foundational lies shape how we interpret situations, how we emotionally respond, and how we treat people. If the root is fear, insecurity, pride, or self-protection, the fruit will always be unhealthy. By identifying these core lies and replacing them with God’s truth, we uproot the real source of relational dysfunction.

The table below contrasts the fallen ungodly belief with its relational impact and the renewing truth that sets the heart free.

Foundational Area	Ungodly Belief (Lie)	Relational Impact	Truth That Corrects
Protection	“I must protect myself.”	Creates defensiveness, tension, shutdown, overreaction	God is my defender (Psalm 91). I am safe in His covering.
Control	“I must control outcomes.”	Produces pressure, anxiety, manipulation, frustration	God directs my steps (Proverbs 3:5–6). I can trust His lead.
Identity & Value	“My worth depends on how others treat me.”	Creates insecurity, emotional volatility, fear of rejection	I am accepted, chosen, beloved in Christ (Ephesians 1:6).
Needs & Expectations	“Others must meet my needs.”	Produces resentment, entitlement, disappointment	God supplies all my needs (Philippians 4:19). Others are not my source.
Justice & Forgiveness	“If someone hurts me, they deserve punishment.”	Leads to bitterness, withholding forgiveness, relational coldness	Forgive as Christ forgave you (Colossians 3:13). Forgiveness sets me free.
Pride & Being Right	“I must be right to be okay.”	Escalates conflict, blinds self-awareness, blocks growth	Humble yourself before God (James 4:10). He lifts up the humble.

– Do I frequently defend myself?
– Do I get anxious when I can’t control outcomes?
– Does others’ approval impact me deeply?
– Do I expect others to meet emotional needs?
– Do I struggle to forgive?
– Do I resist admitting I’m wrong?

Ask the Lord to reveal the ungodly fundamental beliefs driving your behavior, repent, and embrace the truth.

The Top 10 Lies That Disrupt Relationships

Once the foundational lies take root, they begin producing a second layer of “functional lies” that shape how we interpret people, handle conflict, and emotionally react in the moment. These lies operate quickly and subconsciously. They distort our perception, fuel offense, justify unhealthy behavior, and block love from flowing freely. Recognizing these lies is essential because they reveal the exact point of breakdown in your relational patterns.

The table below contrasts the lie, its relational effect, and the truth that restores clarity and connection.

Category	Lie (Fallen Perspective)	Relational Effect	Truth That Corrects
Safety & Trust	“People are out to get me.”	Creates suspicion, distance, hypervigilance	God protects me (Psalm 121). I can relate from peace, not fear.
Trust & Vulnerability	“I can’t trust anyone.”	Produces isolation, guardedness, shallow relationships	Perfect love casts out fear (1 John 4:18). Wisdom guides trust, not fear.
Identity & Worth	“I must prove myself.”	Creates striving, pride, performance-driven living	I am accepted and complete in Christ (Colossians 2:10).
Self-Worth	“I’m unlovable.”	Causes insecurity, clinginess, jealousy	I am beloved by God (1 John 3:1). My worth is settled in Him.
Conflict & Rejection	“Conflict means rejection.”	Leads to avoidance, shutdown, or people-pleasing	Healthy conflict deepens unity (Matthew 18).
Forgiveness	“Forgiving them lets them win.”	Fuels bitterness, resentment, emotional bondage	Forgiveness sets me free (Matthew 6:14–15).
Control & Pressure	“If I don’t control it, everything will fall apart.”	Produces anxiety, micromanagement, tension	God holds all things together (Colossians 1:17).
Interpretation & Emotions	“My feelings tell the truth.”	Causes misinterpretation, false assumptions, overreaction	Truth > feelings (John 8:32). My emotions must be tested by Scripture.
Expectations	“If they loved me, they’d know what I need.”	Creates resentment, misunderstanding, emotional distance	Love communicates clearly and graciously (Ephesians 4:15).
Hope & Change	“Change is too hard.”	Leads to hopelessness, stagnation, giving up	The Spirit empowers transformation (2 Corinthians 3:18).

Which of these lies appears in my internal dialogue?

Which ones show up most during conflict?

Which ones surface when I feel stressed or insecure?

Which lie feels “true” emotionally even though Scripture contradicts it?

Which lie impacts my closest relationships the most?

The Four Transformation Threads That Restore All Relationships

Identifying the problem is only half the journey; transformation requires partnering with God to actually change the roots that drive our relational patterns.

Every unhealthy behavior, emotional reaction, or relational breakdown traces back to deeper spiritual forces:

what we love,
what we believe,
which nature we are operating from.

To restore the flow of love and rebuild relationships God’s way, we must walk through four core transformation threads.

These threads work together to reshape how we see God, how we see ourselves, how we see others, and how we behave.

Each thread plays a critical role in healing relationships and aligning your life with the heart of Jesus.

Thread 1: Put God First — Submit to Him, deny self, put off the old man, and walk by the Spirit.
Thread 2: See Yourself as God Sees You — Identity stabilizes emotional life.
Thread 3: See Others as God Sees Them — Honor, compassion, patience, forgiveness.
Thread 4: Replace Old Behaviors With New Ones Rooted in Love and Truth — Renew mind, uproot lies, practice Christlike responses.

These four threads are not quick fixes; they are the ongoing movements of a transformed life.

When practiced together, they dismantle the lies, fears, and self-centered patterns that prevent love from flowing—and they cultivate the Christlike character that makes healthy relationships possible.

Each thread addresses a different dimension of the heart: your allegiance, your identity, your perspective, and your daily actions.

The following sections unpack each thread so you can understand what it means, why it matters, and how to apply it in real relationships with real people.

Thread 1: Put God First

This thread addresses submission, denying self, putting off the old nature, and walking by the Spirit.

This is important because misaligned allegiance produces fear, control, self-protection, and flesh-driven relationships.

Address this through daily surrender, repentance, Scripture meditation, obedience, and examining motives.

Best Practices:

- Daily submission prayer
- Declaration of Submission – see below
- Take thoughts captive
- Journal areas of resistance
- Practice obedience in small things

Declaration of Submission: Lord, I submit every part of my life to You. I deny my old self, lay down my agendas, and choose to live by Your Spirit. I surrender my thoughts, desires, and actions to Your will. Strengthen me to obey and shape me to reflect Your love. In Jesus’ name.Best Practices:

Learn More: Submit to God and The Devil Will Flee

Deny Your Self, Pick Up Your Cross, and Follow Jesus – Lose Your Life To FInd It

Thread 2: See Yourself as God Sees You

This thread addresses identity, worth, acceptance, righteousness, and your place in God’s family.

This is important because insecurity and false identity drive reactivity, fear, and relational instability.
How to Address It: Address it by declaring biblical identity, renouncing lies, receiving God’s love, and practicing gratitude.

Best Practices:

- Identity declaration
- Meditate on Ephesians 1–2
- Ask God how He sees you
- Reject comparison

Learn More: See Yourself As God Sees You – Stand In Your New Identity in Christ

Thread 3: See Others as God Sees Them

This thread addresses perspective, honor, compassion, forgiveness, and how you interpret others.
This is important because distorted views of others create suspicion, offense, judgment, and emotional distance.
This is addressed through forgiveness, blessing, empathy, believing the best, and slowing down reactions.

- Pray for others daily
- Release judgments
- Practice patient listening
- Serve without expectation

Learn More: See Others As God Sees Them – Image Bearing Children With Great Potential ( Link to be provided soon)

Thread 4: Replace Old Behaviors With New Ones Rooted in Love and Truth

This thread addresses habits, emotional reactions, speech, conflict patterns, and relational skills.
This is important because transformation requires putting off harmful habits and practicing Christlike responses.
This is addressed through renewing the mind, rehearsing truth, practicing new behaviors, and accountability.

Best Practices:

- Truth replacement statements
- Pause before responding
- Journal triggers
- Practice kindness daily

Learn More: Ungodly Beliefs Limit You – The Truth Will Set You Free

Take Your Thoughts Captive – Your Thoughts Are Not Your Own

Where To Learn More

Transformation is an ongoing journey. These resources will help you deepen your understanding of God’s love, renew your identity, and grow in relational maturity.

They are organized by Scripture, books, teachers, and practices so you can explore at your own pace.

1. Key Scriptures to Study and Meditate On

Love and Christlike Relationships

1 Corinthians 13 – God’s definition of love; a mirror for relational growth

Matthew 5–7 – The heart posture Jesus expects of His followers

Romans 12 – Living as a transformed sacrifice who overcomes evil with good

Colossians 3 – Putting off the old self and putting on Christlike character

1 John 4 – Love as the evidence of knowing God

Identity and Your New Life in Christ

Ephesians 1–2 – Who you are in Christ and what God has already done

Romans 6–8 – Dying to the flesh and living by the Spirit

Galatians 2:20 & 5:16–25 – Crucifying the flesh and walking in freedom

Forgiveness, Compassion, and Unity

Matthew 18 – Forgiveness, reconciliation, healthy conflict

Philippians 2 – Humility and the mindset of Christ

John 15 – Abiding in Christ to bear relational fruit

2. Books That Equip You for Relational Transformation

Emotional and Relational Health

The Emotionally Healthy Relationships Course – Peter Scazzero
Teaches practical skills for communication, authenticity, and healthy boundaries.

Keep Your Love On – Danny Silk
A powerful guide for reducing fear, choosing connection, and building trust.

Removing Offense, Bitterness, and Ungodly Patterns

The Bait of Satan – John Bevere
Foundational in understanding offense, forgiveness, and spiritual traps.

Unoffendable – Brant Hansen
A humorous and convicting approach to eliminating offense entirely.

Identity and Spiritual Formation

Victory Over Darkness – Neil Anderson
Deep dive into identity, authority, and renewing your mind.

Renovation of the Heart – Dallas Willard
The inner transformation journey of mind, heart, will, and character.

3. Bible Teachers and Video Series Worth Studying

Identity, Love, and Christlike Living

Dan Mohler
Teaches identity in Christ, walking in love, eliminating self-centeredness, and seeing others through God’s eyes.

Freedom, Forgiveness, and Spiritual Maturity

John Bevere
Deep insight on offense, forgiveness, authority, and character.

Pete Scazzero
Excellent teaching on emotional maturity as an essential part of spiritual maturity.

Bible-Based Relationship Teaching

Andy Stanley: “Better Decisions, Fewer Regrets”
Helpful for understanding motives, integrity, and relational impact.

Tim Keller (Marriage & Relationship Series)
Deep theology applied to love, sacrifice, and covenant relationships.

4. Practices That Reinforce Transformation

Daily Spiritual Practices

Morning Submission Prayer
Begin your day by surrendering mind, heart, will, and relationships to God.

Identity Declarations
Speak truth over yourself to dismantle insecurity and fear.

Love Declarations
Declare your commitment to honor, forgive, and bless others.

Relational Practices

The PAUSE Rule — Before responding, Pause, Ask God, Understand, Speak truth in love.

Active Listening — Listen to understand, not to react.

Confession & Forgiveness — Quickly remove relational toxins.

Blessing Others — Pray intentionally for those who irritate or hurt you.

Transformational Journaling – Ask Jesus:

- - “What lie did I believe?”
  - “What truth do You want me to stand on?”
  - “What behavior came from my old nature?”
  - “What does love look like right now?”

Relational Diagnostics – Monthly review:

- - “Where did I react instead of respond?”
  - “Who do I need to forgive?”
  - “What behavior is God inviting me to replace?”

5. Courses, Tools, and Church-Based Resources

Emotionally Healthy Spirituality (EHS)

A structured, church-friendly curriculum for inner healing, emotional maturity, and relational transformation.

Freedom Ministries / Freedom App

Teaches how to dismantle lies, break ungodly patterns, and walk in truth.

Celebrate Recovery (CR)

A Christ-centered program for dealing with hurts, habits, and hang-ups that affect relationships.

Alpha Course (Relational Evangelism)

Teaches how to engage others with compassion, humility, and patience.

Final Thoughts

You have a choice. You can continue doing what you’ve always done and keep getting the same painful, predictable results. Or you can change the entire game by aligning your life with God’s design. When you put Him first, embrace how He sees you, learn to see others through His eyes, and replace old reactions with truth and love, everything shifts. Relationships begin to heal. Patterns break. Love flows where fear once lived. You stop managing damage and start building something eternal. Apply these truths to every interaction, big or small, and you will create relationships that carry real value, leave a legacy, and bring glory to God’s name for generations.

Take Your Thoughts Captive

Posted on December 8, 2025December 8, 2025 by jakirkgasser10439

Take Your Thoughts Captive – Do Not Be Deceived or Distracted

Introduction

Your thoughts are not background noise.
They shape your emotions, your choices, your habits, your spiritual clarity, and ultimately your destiny. Scripture commands you plainly:

“…bringing every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ.”
— 2 Corinthians 10:5,

This blog post will help you understand what thoughts are, why you must master them, what correct thoughts look like, how to take thoughts captive, and how to test yourself for truth vs. lies so you can walk in freedom, clarity, and purpose.

What Are Thoughts and Where Do They Come From?

Thoughts are internal messages—interpretations, reactions, conclusions, assumptions, imaginations, and desires.

They arise from four primary sources:

A. Thoughts from God (Truth & Revelation)

These align with Scripture, produce peace, convict without condemning, and lead toward holiness.

They sound like clarity, invitation, alignment, protection, and wisdom.

B. Thoughts from Yourself (Desires, Fears, Habits)

Neutral thoughts shaped by your upbringing, beliefs, habits, wounds, personality, and experiences.

They often reveal what you value or fear most.

C. Thoughts from the Flesh (Old Patterns)

Self-centered impulses, cravings, pride, anger, lust, or control.

These thoughts push you toward sin or self-exaltation.

D. Thoughts from the Enemy (Lies, Accusations, Distortions)

Satan cannot read your mind—but he can whisper lies, distortions, doubts, and accusations, all designed to:

- Undermine trust in God
- Distort your identity
- Interrupt your purpose
- Inflate or collapse your emotions
- Pressure you into sin or passivity

Jesus described him as:

“…a liar and the father of it.” — John 8:44

Your thought-life is not neutral—it is a battleground.

Why Should I Care About My Thoughts?

Your thoughts become beliefs, your beliefs become actions, and your actions become your character and life outcomes.

Category	Right Thinking	Wrong Thinking
God	God is Good	God is Harsh
	God is Near	God is Distant
	God is Wise	God is Unreliable
	God is For Me	God is Against Me
	God Provides	God Withholds

Your thoughts shape emotions, decisions, habits, identity, and spiritual clarity.

Thoughts that go unchallenged become strongholds that limit your capabilities.

Category	Right Thinking	Wrong Thinking
GOD	God is Good	God is Harsh
	God is Near	God is Distant
	God is Wise	God is Unreliable
	God is For Me	God is Against Me
	God Provides	God Withholds
YOURSELF (Identity)	Deeply Loved	Unlovable / Rejected
	Fully Forgiven	Condemned / Guilty
	Chosen & Valued	Worthless / Forgotten
	Able in Christ	Powerless & Weak
	Growing Daily	Stuck Forever
VIEW OF OTHERS (Relationships)	Forgive Freely	Hold Grudges
	Assume Good	Assume Evil
	Love Sacrificially	Self-Protect Constantly
	Seek Unity	Stir Division
	Offer Grace	Demand Perfection
LIFE (Purpose & Trials)	Purpose Driven	Aimless Living
	Kingdom Focus	Earthly Obsession
	Trials Refine	Trials Punish
	Hopeful Future	Fearful Future
	God Leads Me	I Must Control Everything
SIN & SPIRITUAL WARFARE	Resist the Devil	Give In Easily
	Take Thoughts Captive	Let Thoughts Wander
	I Have Authority	I Am Powerless
	Renew Mind Daily	Stay Double-Minded
	Walk in Freedom	Stay in Bondage

Your life will move in the direction of your dominant thoughts. Choose make them good thoughts

What Are the Correct Thoughts to Hold? The Top 10 Critical Truths

These foundational truths stabilize your spiritual life.

Below is a table of the top 10 critical truths, the lies that attack them, and the consequences of believing those lies.

Review these truths.. Do You believe them whole-heartedly, Do you resonate with the lie? Do you see any of those consequences?

Area	Truth to Believe	Common Lie	Consequence of Believing the Lie
God’s Character	God is good, loving, wise, faithful, trustworthy.	God is distant, harsh, unreliable, unknowable	Withdrawal, distrust, anxiety.
Your Identity	I am loved, forgiven, chosen, valuable.	I am unworthy, forgotten, defective.	Shame, insecurity, anxiety.
Salvation	Jesus has fully saved me; I stand in grace, forgiven, a resident of heaven, with Jesus.	I must earn God’s favor;	Exhaustion, fear, legalism.
Your Purpose	I was created with purpose and destiny.	My life has no purpose.	Passivity, despair, escapism.
Your Authority	I have authority in Christ.	I am powerless; nothing will change.	Fear, oppression, defeat.
God’s Provision	God supplies my needs.	I must control everything or I will lack.	Anxiety, greed, hoarding.
Transformation	God is changing me.	I cannot change; this is who I am.	Hopelessness, addiction.
Relationships	I am called to love, forgive, and walk in unity.	People are threats; I must protect myself.	Isolation, bitterness.
Trials	Trials refine me.	Trials prove God doesn’t care.	Resentment, quitting.
Destiny	My life is part of God’s eternal story.	This life is all there is, live for now	Materialism, fear of death.

How Do I Take My Thoughts Captive?

STEP 1 — IDENTIFY

Ask: What am I thinking?

What emotion does it create?

What is the likely source?

- - - God? – Wisdom, Truth, Calm, Quiet, Encouraging
    - My Mind? Memories, Beliefs, Habits, Replaying painful wounds from the past
    - My Flesh? – Urges, Impulses, Desires, Cravings, Pride, Anger, Lust, Control.
    - The Devil? – Lies, Accusation, Blame – Loud, Pressing/Urgent,

STEP 2 — EXPOSE

Compare the thought to Scripture,

God’s character,

and the 10 critical truths.

STEP 3 — REJECT

Break agreement with the lie.

Say aloud: “I reject that thought in Jesus’ name.”

STEP 4 — REPLACE

Find a Scripture truth that defeats the lie and declare it repeatedly.

Self-Test Tool

Use this the Top 10 Critical Beliefs table above as a tool to evaluate your thought-life:

A. Do I believe each of the 10 critical truths? (Rate each 1–5)
B. Do I believe any lie categories? (God, self, purpose, past, future, trials, relationships)
C. Do I see consequences? (Anxiety, shame, sin cycles, isolation, confusion)
D. What do I do next? Identify → Reject → Replace → Reinforce.

Where Can I Learn More?

Scripture:

2 Corinthians 10,
Romans 12,
Philippians 4,
James 1,
Matthew 4

Books:

The Screwtape Letters,
Victory Over Darkness,
The Bondage Breaker,
Battlefield of the Mind

Best Practices:

Journaling ungodly beliefs,

Speaking truth aloud as seclarations,

Memorizing Scripture,

Worship,

Fasting to break attachments to the flesh.

Do You Want to Change? Let’s Use God’s Path And Actually Change

Posted on December 1, 2025 by jakirkgasser10439

Do You Want to Change? Let’s Use God’s Path And Actually Change

Introduction

Every person reaches a point where they want real change — not temporary motivation, not emotional highs, not coping skills — but deep, lasting transformation. The kind that reshapes who you are at the level of motive, desire, thought, and behavior. The kind that brings peace, maturity, stability, and spiritual power.

There is only one path that reliably produces this kind of transformation: God’s path. It works because it deals with the entire internal chain that produces behavior. Most change strategies only address symptoms. God addresses the roots.

“But we all… are being transformed into the same image from glory to glory…”
—2 Corinthians 3:18

What Are We Trying to Accomplish?

The goal of transformation is not simply becoming a ‘better version’ of yourself. The goal is becoming the person God intended you to be — someone who reflects His character, walks in His love, operates in His truth, and lives in His power.

Transformation aims at:

• Reshaping motives
• Correcting beliefs
• Healing emotions
• Renewing thoughts
• Strengthening decisions
• Reforming habits
• Rebuilding identity
• Restoring purpose

This is more than behavior modification. It is internal re-creation.

Why Does This Matter?

Transformation matters because it affects both eternity and daily life.

• **Eternally** — God is preparing you for life with Him forever. Character matters. Loving God with all your heart matters most.

• **Here and now** — Your internal world determines your peace, relationships, confidence, and stability. You are an ambassador for Christ, Bring Him Glory.

When transformation is ignored, life becomes reactive, chaotic, and repetitive. When embraced, life becomes fruitful, meaningful, and aligned with God’s design.

“For whom He foreknew, He also predestined to be conformed to the image of His Son.”
—Romans 8:29 (NKJV)

Understand the Chain: Why You Do the Things You Don’t Want to Do

Every behavior — desirable or undesirable — is produced by an internal sequence. If you only fight the behavior, you will always lose. But if you understand the chain, you can break it early.

Here is the full chain of behavior we are working with:

1. Root Love (Self vs. God)

The deepest motive driving everything. Love of self produces disorder; love of God produces life.

2. Lust Channel (Eyes, Flesh, Pride)

The craving system that activates desire and pulls the heart away from God.

3. Specific Ungodly Love / Temptation Object

A concrete desire becomes a substitute for God — comfort, control, recognition, escape.

4. Ungodly Belief

A lie forms to justify the desire and make it feel necessary.

5. Ungodly Emotion

Emotion fuels the belief and prepares the body to act: fear, anger, shame, envy, irritation.

6. Ungodly Thought / Inner Voice

Mental rehearsal: accusations, justifications, fantasies, arguments.

7. Ungodly Decision

The will chooses the self-serving path — often automatically.

8. Ungodly Behavior

The visible action: reacting, withdrawing, indulging, attacking, escaping.

9. Undesired Consequence

Shame, frustration, relationship damage, spiritual dullness, reinforced bondage.

We need to break the chain and clean out the roots wo we can get aligned with God’s intention for us

“Make the tree good and its fruit good.”
—Matthew 12:33

Why Other Change Strategies Don’t Work

Most secular or pop-spiritual approaches fail because they address only fragments of the chain — usually the behavior, emotion, or thought level — while ignoring the root. Only God can change what you love, and only God can uproot the lies that shape your identity and drive your desires.

Here are common strategies and where they fall short:

• **Self-help** — Tries to change habits but never addresses the heart’s motives or spiritual roots.
• **Positive thinking** — Focuses on thoughts but ignores beliefs, desires, and root love.
• **‘Love yourself’ ideology** — Attempts to heal emotions without addressing the reason they form: misplaced loves.
• **Secular therapy-only models** — Helpful for insight but limited in spiritual root healing.
• **Mindfulness/spirituality** — Tries to calm the mind but cannot transform desires or crucify the flesh.

These approaches may temporarily reduce symptoms, but they cannot heal the tree because they cannot change the heart. Only God can do that — when we give Him permission, align with His truth, and crucify the self-centered root.

Where True Transformation Begins

Transformation begins with intention — the desire to change. But desire alone accomplishes nothing unless it is expressed through obedience. Obedience is the first action that invites God into the root of the chain.

Once obedience is chosen, even before your emotions or thoughts agree, God begins reshaping your motives, healing your beliefs, retraining your emotions, and renewing your mind.

• Intention starts the journey.
• Obedience opens the door.
• The Spirit transforms the heart.
• A renewed heart produces sustained renewed behavior.

“Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.”
—Galatians 5:16 (NKJV)

God’s Path for Transformation (The Only One That Actually Works)

God’s transformation path addresses every stage of the chain — root, belief, emotion, thought, and action. Here is the full sequence:

1. **Reveal the Root** — Ask God to expose what you really loved in the moment.
2. **Confront the Lie** — Identify the belief shaping your emotion.
3. **Insert God’s Truth** — Replace the lie with Scripture spoken aloud.
4. **Repent and Realign** — Realign your will with God.
5. **Crucify the Flesh** — Deny the self-centered motive.
6. **Choose Obedience** — Act on God’s truth even if it feels unnatural.
7. **Walk by the Spirit** — Depend on God’s power, not willpower.
8. **Practice Righteous Behavior** — Rewire the brain with repeated godly action.

This is the only process that changes the entire person — root, heart, mind, will, and behavior.

Where to Learn More

Focus on Gods word – The truth will make you free

• Romans 12 – Renewing the mind
• Galatians 5 – Walking by the Spirit
• John 15 – Abiding in Christ

Resources

• Mark Virkler – Hearing God’s voice and emotional healing
• Neil Anderson – Freedom in Christ
• Dallas Willard – Renovation of the Heart

Ungodly Beliefs Limit You — The Truth Sets You Free

Posted on November 25, 2025December 1, 2025 by jakirkgasser10439

Ungodly Beliefs Limit You — The Truth Sets You Free. Use It.

Introduction

Beliefs are the things we treat as *real enough to act on*. Your life moves in the direction of your beliefs. They shape every part of life—how we see reality, how we relate to God, how we see ourselves, and how we treat others.

“For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.” — Proverbs 23:7 (NKJV)

Godly beliefs, rooted in Scripture and revealed in the life and teachings of Jesus, align us with reality as God defines it and open the door to freedom

Ungodly beliefs—lies planted by the enemy—distort perception, limit identity, fuel sin, and block spiritual transformation. When you agree with lies—about God, yourself, others, or your future—your world becomes smaller, darker, and harder. Ungodly beliefs quietly influence your emotions, decisions, relationships, and the way you see God.

Jesus made the battle lines clear:

“And you shall know the truth, and the truth shall make you free.”— John 8:32

Freedom comes when The Truth replaces lies. Not someday, not theoretically, not someone else—You here and now today.

WHAT Are Ungodly Beliefs?

Ungodly beliefs are any conclusions, assumptions, or internal narratives that contradict Scripture.

They based on lies and deceptions introduced by the devil and are empowered by fear, shame, pride, and emotional wounds.

An ungodly belief can sound reasonable, familiar, or even virtuous, yet completely undermine your walk with God.

Ungodly beliefs form slowly—through upbringing, trauma, culture, and exposure to repeated lies from the adversary. Once embedded, they shape your emotional responses, your expectations, and your self‑perception.

These beliefs distort:

Your view of God
Your identity
Your sense of purpose
Your emotions
Your expectations
Your relationships

Ungodly beliefs shape how you interpret situations and how you respond to challenges. Most dangerously, they shape what you expect from God.

WHY Ungodly Beliefs Are So Dangerous (The Consequences)

Every decision you make flows from what you believe is **possible** and **appropriate**. This is the essence of *Possibility Thinking*, a principle that profoundly aligns with Scripture.

“If you do not believe something is possible, you will not attempt it. And even if you believe it is possible, you will only act if you believe it is appropriate.”
Ungodly beliefs damage every level of life:

• **Spiritually** — they block intimacy with God and dull spiritual discernment.
• **Emotionally** — they reinforce shame, fear, anxiety, and hopelessness.
• **Relationally** — they create cycles of mistrust, unforgiveness, and self‑protection.
• **Behaviorally** — they manifest as repeated undesired behaviors that feel ‘automatic.’

In short: lies enslave. Truth frees. And freedom requires identifying the lie at the root.

“My people perish for lack of knowledge.” — Hosea 4:6 (NKJV)

Ungodly beliefs always produce ungodly consequences. Consider the effects:

Psychological consequences — fear, anxiety, shame, identity confusion, hopelessness.

“For as he thinks in his heart, so is he.” — Proverbs 23:7

Behavioral consequences — self-sabotage, addiction, anger, drifting into sin.

“A good tree cannot bear bad fruit…” — Matthew 7:18

Relationship Consequences — isolation, offense, division, manipulation.

“Pursue peace with all people…” — Hebrews 12:14

Purpose & destiny consequences — lost calling, diminished potential, confusion.

“For we are His workmanship… created for good works…” — Ephesians 2:10

Spiritual consequences — agreement with the enemy, hardened heart, blocked intimacy with God.

“Give no place to the devil.” — Ephesians 4:27

Ungodly beliefs do not sit still. They grow, multiply, and shape the course of a person’s entire life.

WHO: Who Struggles With Ungodly Beliefs?

Everyone.

Believers carry ungodly beliefs when emotions override truth or when faith is weakened. Unbelievers build their worldview entirely on them.

Different backgrounds produce different types of lies:

– Religious guilt and performance-based acceptance

– Fear-based views of God

– Identity confusion reinforced by culture

– Lies inherited through family patterns

This is a universal battle. No one is exempt—and no one is without hope.

The Four Tiers of Truth

Your beliefs form a layered structure. To transform fully, each tier must be aligned with The Truth—the unchanging reality God reveals through Scripture and the life of Jesus.
• Tier 1 — Worldview: Your Eternal Reality
• Tier 2 — God’s Nature and His Promises to You
• Tier 3 — Your Identity and Relationship With God
• Tier 4 — Your Relationships With Others and the World

Lies Lead to Undesired Behaviors

Ungodly beliefs always manifest as undesired behaviors. Often the connection is invisible until the Holy Spirit reveals it. Below is a concise but meaningful overview of how ungodly beliefs manifest at each tier of life.

Tier 1 — The Devil’s Top 10 Lies (Worldview)

• There is no God → Nihilism, moral collapse, self‑exaltation.
• Truth is relative → Confusion, instability, erosion of justice.
• Life has no inherent purpose → Apathy, self-destruction.
• People are basically good → Naïveté, denial of sin, poor boundaries.
• The spiritual realm is not real → Blindness in spiritual warfare.
• Satan and demons are myths → Unopposed spiritual influence.
• Morality is subjective → Rationalization of sin.
• Humans can fix themselves without God → Pride, burnout, legalism.
• There is no eternity → Short-sighted choices, worldliness.
• Scripture is not authoritative → Drift, deception, confusion.

Tier 2 — Lies About God’s Nature

• God is not truly good → Mistrust, resentment.
• God is distant or uninvolved → Prayerlessness, self‑reliance.
• God will not protect me → Anxiety, control.
• God will not provide for me → Hoarding, greed, compromise.
• God’s promises are for others, not me → Passivity, fear.
• Jesus’ sacrifice wasn’t enough → Shame, self‑punishment.

Tier 3 — Lies About Your Identity

• I am worthless → Shame, hiding, withdrawal.
• I cannot change → Hopelessness, stagnation.
• My past defines me → Bondage, guilt, self‑limitation.
• I am alone and powerless → Fear, surrender to sin.
• I have nothing to offer → Passivity, avoidance.
• I have no spiritual authority → Vulnerability, fear.

Tier 4 — Lies About Relationships and the World

• People cannot be trusted → Isolation, offense.
• Forgiveness is impossible → Bitterness, division.
• Serving others is weakness → Pride, selfishness.
• Boundaries are unloving → Burnout, resentment.
• My choices don’t affect others → Irresponsibility.
• My faith is private → Silence, missed assignments.
“For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal but mighty in God…” — 2 Corinthians 10:4 (NKJV)

HOW: How to Replace Ungodly Beliefs With The Truth

Here is a simple, repeatable process that invites the Holy Spirit to uncover the root of every undesired behavior. Use this prayer‑journaling sequence regularly:

“Lord, what undesired behavior should we address right now?”
“What self-centered love drives this behavior?”
“What ungodly belief is enabling this behavior?”
“What truth corrects this belief?”
Execute correction by declaration:

- Confess the behavior.
- Repent for holding the ungodly belief and the self-centered love.
- Reject the lie.
- Embrace the truth.
- Ask the Holy Spirit to empower new behavior by grace.

Here is an example declaration:

“Heavenly Father, I confess and repent of undesired behavior (xxx),
I repent for holding self-serving love (xxx) that drove it, and ungodly belief (xxx) that enabled it to continue,
I forgive person (xxx) who gave it to me, they were blinded and lost in this fallen world.
I accept Jesus’ work on the cross to rescue me. His broken body paid the price, and His blood now covers me.
I rebuke the unclean spirit that has been operating in me, I demand you leave and never return.
I claim healing and deliverance in Jesus’ name, by his stripes I am healed.
Holy spirit, fill me and help me remember every word of God to stand firm in this battle and bring you glory.
As it is written, so let it be done for me! In Jesus’ name. AMEN”

“Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” — Romans 12:2 (NKJV)

Some Other Considerations

Here are proven best practices drawn from Scripture, deliverance ministers, and discipleship leaders.

Stay filled with the Word — read, listen, meditate.

“Faith comes by hearing…” — Romans 10:17

– Read Scripture daily.

– Listen to sermons and worship.

– Meditate on passages that speak to your identity and purpose.

Journal to identify ungodly beliefs.

Lord, What issue should I address next to become the person you intended me to become?

– What undesired behaviors shall we stop?

– What ungodly belief allowed them to happen?

– What godly belief will stop them?

Confess you undesired behavior, Repent for holding ungodly beliefs, Ask Holy Spirit to help you instill the Godly belief and walk in alignment with it.

Anchor your beliefs in the seven truth categories:

- – God’s Character
- – God’s Promises
- – Your Identity
- – Your Purpose
- – Your View of Others
- – Truth & Reality
- – Your Responsibility

These categories help you replace lies with the correct kind of truth. (Ref list of truths)

Use 3×5 verse cards to memorize specific truths.

- – Choose a verse each morning.
- – Carry the card everywhere.
- – Speak it aloud several times a day.

This rewires your thinking and strengthens your faith.

Speak declarations out loud.

- – “God is…” declarations strengthen your view of Him.
- – “I am…” declarations reinforce identity.
- – “Because God promised…” declarations build confidence.

Replace lies with truth immediately when spotted

Where to Learn More

These teachers offer deep insight into renewing the mind and replacing lies:

– Dan Mohler

– Derek Prince

– Neil Anderson (Bondage Breaker)

– John Bevere

– Joyce Meyer (Battlefield of the Mind)

– Jordan Peterson (psychology of belief)

– Dallas Willard (spiritual disciplines)

Conclusion

Ungodly beliefs limit you. They shrink your world, restrict your potential, and distort how you see God. The Truth sets you free—*but only if you use it*.

Start today:

– Identify lies.

– Replace them with Scripture.

– Declare truth.

– Walk in freedom.

This is the life Jesus paid for—step into it.

Demonic Spirits Work In Chains, Break Them With Truth

Posted on November 18, 2025November 21, 2025 by jakirkgasser10439

Demonic Spirits Work In Chains, Trigger → Aggravate → Destroy

Introduction: Understanding Spiritual Warfare

Spiritual warfare is the ongoing conflict between the kingdom of God and the kingdom of darkness. We have a real enemy—Satan—who uses spiritual forces of wickedness to deceive, tempt, pressure, and ultimately destroy. Demonic spirits are fallen angels aligned with Satan, operating with intentional strategy to steal, kill, and destroy. They cannot possess a believer’s spirit, but they can influence thoughts, emotions, and behaviors when given access. They use deception, temptation, emotional pressure, and destructive influence to derail God’s purposes in our lives.

The enemy works through predictable patterns and strategies, not randomness. Understanding their schemes is the first step toward resisting them effectively.

One of the most common demonic mechanisms is the three‑stage spiritual influence chain:

Trigger → Aggravate → Destroy.

Understanding this chain equips believers to identify attacks early, resist effectively, and walk in lasting freedom.

This post introduces one of the most common demonic patterns—how spirits work together to move a person from a moment of vulnerability into patterns of destruction. This pattern is called the Trigger → Aggravate → Destroy chain.

1. TRIGGER — The Opening Move

A trigger is the moment a demonic spirit attempts to activate an internal weakness, wound, or ungodly belief. It is not sin, but it is the point where spiritual pressure begins.

“Each one is tempted when he is drawn away by his own desires and enticed.” —James 1:14 (NKJV)

Triggers can take the form of rejection, shame, loneliness, disrespect, boredom, fear of failure, correction, or anything that presses on an unhealed part of the heart. The trigger activates an ungodly love (self-protection, pride, comfort, approval) or an ungodly belief (“I’m not enough,” “I’m alone,” “I’ll never change”).

2. AGGRAVATE — The Intensifier

Once triggered, aggravating spirits rush in to increase emotional pressure. Their job is to take a small spark and turn it into a fire—fear into anxiety, irritation into anger, sadness into despair.

“When the enemy comes in like a flood…” —Isaiah 59:19 (NKJV)

Aggravator spirits usually work through persistent mental suggestions: “You’re failing,” “No one cares,” “You can’t handle this,” “They don’t respect you,” “It will never get better.” The goal is to destabilize the heart until the person feels overwhelmed.

3. DESTROY — The Outcome

If the aggravation is not resisted, destroyer spirits step in. These spirits push for outward, visible, and damaging actions. Their intention is always the same—cause harm to the person, their relationships, their reputation, and their spiritual life.

“The thief does not come except to steal, and to kill, and to destroy.” —John 10:10 (NKJV)

Destroyer spirits manifest through rage, addiction, sexual sin, violence, self-harm, isolation, sabotage, or compulsive behaviors. Their influence leads to broken trust, damaged families, ruined opportunities, and spiritual bondage.

Breaking the Chain: Three Strategies

The chain can be broken at ANY stage, but the deepest freedom comes when all three layers are addressed.

Scripture gives three clear strategies:

- Renew the Mind — breaks TRIGGERS

“Be transformed by the renewing of your mind.” —Romans 12:2 (NKJV)

- Resist the Enemy — silences AGGRAVATORS

“Resist the devil and he will flee from you.” —James 4:7 (NKJV)

- Walk in the Spirit — blocks DESTROYERS

“Walk in the Spirit, and you shall not fulfill the lust of the flesh.” —Galatians 5:16 (NKJV)

1. Breaking Triggers — Addressing Self‑Centered Loves

Triggers work because they press on self‑centered loves such as comfort, control, reputation, approval, or self‑protection. These loves represent areas of the flesh not fully submitted to Christ.

To break triggers, identify the self‑centered love being pressed, expose the ungodly belief attached to it, and replace it with a God‑centered truth. This is the essence of renewing the mind.

This will be expanded in the upcoming Trigger Reference Table.

2. Breaking Aggravators — Dismantling Lies and Ungodly Beliefs

Aggravators thrive on ungodly beliefs such as ‘I’m unsafe,’ ‘I’m alone,’ ‘I must defend myself,’ or ‘Nothing will ever change.’ These lies amplify emotions and cloud judgment.

Breaking aggravators requires identifying the lie, confronting it with Scripture, and speaking truth out loud. This disarms the emotional momentum the enemy depends on.

The Aggravator Reference Table will outline key lies, truths, and scriptures for practical use.

3. Breaking Destroyers — Stopping Sin and Behavioral Cycles

Destroyer spirits push for outward actions that cause real harm. They rely on emotional chaos, ungodly beliefs, and past sin patterns to pressure the believer into destructive behavior.

Breaking destroyers requires: interrupting the moment, declaring Scripture, praying in the Spirit, and implementing practical boundaries. Long‑term freedom comes from consistent obedience and walking in the Spirit.

The Destroyer Reference Table will map common destroyers, their motives, lies, truths, and verses.

Where to Learn More

Kirkgasser Home Group Bible Study – Use God’s Words To Resist The Devil (Video) ( Presentation)

Catalog of Demonic Spirit Families, Ungodly Truths, Biblical Truths

Sin Chains Reference Table

Devil Strategies Reference Tables

For deeper study in spiritual warfare, demonic influence, and Christian freedom, explore:

Ephesians 6 — The Armor of God
2 Corinthians 10 — Taking thoughts captive
Mark 4 — How Satan steals the Word
1 Peter 5 — Be sober and vigilant
Derek Prince — Teaching on Deliverance
Neil Anderson — The Bondage Breaker
Dan Mohler — Identity & Transformation

These resources reinforce the principles in this post and prepare the foundation for the upcoming Trigger, Aggravator, and Destroyer Reference Tables.

Trials Squeeze The Real You Out

Posted on May 6, 2025December 31, 2025 by jakirkgasser10439

Trials Squeeze The Real You Out. What Do You Look Like?

Introduction

We often pray for strength, wisdom, and spiritual maturity—but rarely do we welcome the very process that produces these traits: TRIALS.

Life in this world is but a fleeting moment—a temporary stage on which our eternal character is forged. We are “strangers and pilgrims” here (1 Peter 2:11), and every challenge we face is designed not simply to test our resolve, but to deepen our likeness to Christ. In this brief sojourn, God’s ultimate aim is to develop within us an unshakable faith and a purity of motive that will bring Him glory in this life and serve us both well in the eternal life to come.

Our human nature is inherently two-faced. On the surface we present smiles, good works, and holy professions, all carefully polished for public view. Yet beneath that veneer can lurk pride, resentment, or self-serving ambitions. James 1:8 warns us that the double-minded person is “unstable in all his ways.” Trials act like a vice, tightening around us until those hidden motives and emotions are squeezed out into the open. What once lay concealed in our hearts now stands exposed for inspection before God and before ourselves.

What comes out when you are squeezed? Has Jesus formed in you? Do you bring Him Glory when you are under pressure? Can others see Jesus in your words and actions when you are under pressure? If not, you have an opportunity.

Consider how a diamond must endure intense pressure to reveal its brilliance. In the same way, trials pressure us to the point of honesty. When the waters rise—whether through financial hardship, relational betrayal, or health crises—our true colors emerge. Do we trust God’s provision, or do we panic and grasp for control? Do we forgive when wronged, or do we count the wrongs and harbor bitterness? These moments strip away pretense, allowing us to see the real condition of our inner souls.

There is purpose in this exposure: Repentance and Renewal. Once the true inner you is laid bare, you have a choice—to harden your heart, double down and continue on as you were or to bow before the Lord, confessing your hidden faults and inviting His sanctifying work. As Job declared, “when He has tested me, I shall come forth as gold” (Job 23:10). Trials, then, are not simply hardships to endure—they are God’s refining fire, revealing the real you so that, through repentance and grace, you might emerge purer, stronger, and more able to flow serve His purpose in this life and the next.

What Are Trials?

Trials are the challenging situations that test our faith, character, and endurance. They can come in many forms:

- Financial struggles that stretch our trust in God’s provision.
- Health issues that test our hope and patience.
- Betrayal or rejection that press us to forgive and heal.
- Loss, grief, or loneliness that cause us to cry out for God’s presence.

Are trials optional? No, trials are inevitable. It is not a matter of “If” you will experience trials and tribulations it is “When”.

“…count it all joy when you fall into various trials,” James 1:2

“…In the world you will have tribulation…” John 16:33

Do you deserve trials? What brought this on? God’s greatest commandments are to love God with all your heart, soul, mind and strength and your neighbor as your self. To love God with ALL your heart is a lot; do you truly love God with all your heart? Are you fully submitted to Him? Do you trust Him with everything? Have you crucified your fleshly desires and separated from all the ways of the world? Are you fully dependent on Him for every aspect of your life? Do you live every second of your life to bring him Glory? If not, the devil has every right to administer consequences. Don’t think that God is doing this to you, Think that you opened the door by your thoughts, words and actions and the devil is taking advantage of the situation. Also know that God will work all things for Good if you are pursuing Him, and whateve rlemons you are experiencing may just turn into lemonade.

Trials aren’t really punishments, they are a more a learning process of truth or consequences;They are divine tools to help us recognize our weaknesses or shortcomings and grow. We are encouraged to embrace the trials we face as opportunities.

“My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience.” James 1:2-3

Why Are Trials Important?

They Reveal Your True Nature

Trials don’t create your character; they reveal it. Like fire refines gold, hardship strips away the surface and shows what’s within. Pride, fear, doubt, or hidden strengths often emerge when pressure is applied.
They Position You for Growth If You Are Ready And Willing

Just like building physical muscle through resistance training, You can’t build spiritual muscles without resistance. Trials stretch your faith and deepen your walk with God.

“We also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; and perseverance, character; and character, hope.” Romans 5:3-4

“But He knows the way that I take; when He has tested me, I shall come forth as gold.” — Job 23:10

How Do Trials Work?

Just as the refiner’s fire exposes every flaw in a piece of metal, the fires of trial bring every hidden impurity in our hearts to the surface. In ancient metallurgy, raw ore was crushed, mixed with flux, and then heated in a crucible until it melted. At first, the molten metal is cloudy and dark, shot through with slag and dross from the mine and the furnace. But as the temperature climbs higher and higher, those impurities—fractions of stone, iron, and other unneeded elements—float up in the liquid metal, forming a scum on the surface. The refiner then skims away that scum, watching carefully until every trace of discoloration is gone. What remains is pure, gleaming gold or silver—worthy of minting, of jewelry, of honor.

Trials work in exactly the same way on our souls. Under the stress or “heat” of financial suffering, relational loss, or physical pain, the impurities of envy, fear, self-reliance, and hidden pride are liquefied by God’s intense love and His testing purposes. These once-buried vices—“the lusts of the flesh” that we thought hidden from all eyes—rise to the surface and are exposed in our thoughts and actions (Galatians 5:19–21). In that moment of exposure, we see just how much we depend on our own strength or seek approval from the world verses loving God, submitting our lives to Him, and seeking to glorify Him in all we do.

But the beauty of the refiner’s process is not simply in exposing the flaws; it is in removing them. As we recognize each flaw in our inner nature – each sin—each speck of dross—we have the opportunity to repent, to say Lord I recognize this flaw and no longer want it to be part of me, and ask the Lord to “skim” it away through confession and surrender (1 John 1:9). With each layer of impurity removed, our faith grows more steadfast, our motives become clearer, and our character is conformed more perfectly to Christ’s image. Just as the refiner watches the crucible and never allows the fire to cool until the metal is wholly refined, so God watches over us, never ceasing His loving discipline until we shine with the purity and brightness for which He intended us from eternity pa

How Do You Use Trials to Grow?

Recognize When Your Flawed Inner Nature Becomes Exposed

Look for works of the flesh as you work through your challenges:

Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God. Galatians 5:19-21

Flaw / Sin	Examples	Verse	Reference
Pride	Bragging about achievements; Refusing help	“Pride goes before destruction, And a haughty spirit before a fall.”	Proverbs 16:18
Selfish Ambition	Elevating Self, Stepping on coworkers; Hoarding resources	“Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself.”	Philippians 2:3
Idolatry	Worshiping something other than God: Work, Money, Things, Education, Title	“’You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart, with all your soul, with all your strength, and with all your mind,’ and ‘your neighbor as yourself.’”	Luke 10:27
Unbelief / Doubt	Questioning God’s promises; Lack of prayer	“Immediately the father of the child cried out and said with tears, ‘Lord, I believe; help my unbelief!’”	Mark 9:24
Fear	Sleepless nights; Paralysis in decision-making	“Fear not, for I am with you; Be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, Yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.”	Isaiah 41:10
Anxiety	Chronic worry; Panic attacks	“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.”	Philippians 4:6–7
Contentions / Rivalry	Disagreements and strife when self centered emotions drive response to situations	“A hot-tempered man stirs up strife, but he who is slow to anger quiets contention.””He who is of a proud heart stirs up strife, But he who trusts in the Lord will be prospered.”	Proverbs 15:18Proverbs 28:25
Anger	Yelling at loved ones; holding grudges	“Be angry, and do not sin”: do not let the sun go down on your wrath.”	Ephesians 4:26
Impatience	Hasty decisions; Quick anger over delays; Your Will above God’s Will.	“But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.”	James 1:4
Bitterness	Unforgiving attitude; Cynicism toward people	“See to it that no one falls short of the grace of God; that no root of bitterness springing up causes trouble, and by this many become defiled.”	Hebrews 12:15
Murder with Words	Speaking Poorly of Someone	But I say to you that whoever is angry with his brother without a cause shall be in danger of the judgment….whoever says, ‘You fool!’ shall be in danger of hell fire.	Matthew 5:21-22
Unforgiveness	Refusing to speak to someone; Holding grudges	“For if you forgive men their trespasses, your heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive your trespasses.”	Matthew 6:14–15
Envy	Resentment of others’ success; Gossip	“For where envying and self-seeking exist, confusion and every evil thing are there.”	James 3:16
Lust	Objectifying others; Pornography use	“Flee sexual immorality. Every sin that a man does is outside the body, but he who commits sexual immorality sins against his own body.”	1 Corinthians 6:18

Lean into God’s Word

Let Scripture be your anchor. Seek to understand God and the ways He works. Meditate and Work Through the following chain of scripture.
1. Trials Serve a Purpose

“My brethren, count it all joy when you fall into various trials, knowing that the testing of your faith produces patience. But let patience have its perfect work, that you may be perfect and complete, lacking nothing.” James 1:2–4

“…we also glory in tribulations, knowing that tribulation produces perseverance; and perseverance, character; and character, hope.” Romans 5:3–5

“In this you greatly rejoice, though now for a little while, if need be, you have been grieved by various trials, that the genuineness of your faith…may be found to praise, honor, and glory at the revelation of Jesus Christ.” 1 Peter 1:6–7

“But He knows the way that I take; when He has tested me, I shall come forth as gold.” Job 23:10

1. God Promises to Help You

“Fear not, for I am with you; be not dismayed, for I am your God. I will strengthen you, yes, I will help you, I will uphold you with My righteous right hand.” Isaiah 41:10

“Be strong and of good courage, do not fear nor be afraid of them; for the LORD your God, He is the One who goes with you. He will not leave you nor forsake you.” Deuteronomy 31:6

“…for He Himself has said, ‘I will never leave you nor forsake you.’ So we may boldly say: ‘The Lord is my helper; I will not fear. What can man do to me?’” Hebrews 13:5–6

“God is our refuge and strength, a very present help in trouble.” Psalm 46:1

1. Trust in the Lord

“Trust in the LORD with all your heart, and lean not on your own understanding; in all your ways acknowledge Him, and He shall direct your paths.” Proverbs 3:5–6

“Commit your way to the LORD, trust also in Him, and He shall bring it to pass.” Psalm 37:5

1. Yield Your Will to the Lord

“Your kingdom come. Your will be done on earth as it is in heaven.” Matthew 6:10

“Let nothing be done through selfish ambition or conceit, but in lowliness of mind let each esteem others better than himself. Do not look out for your own personal interests, but also for the interests of others Philippians 2:3-4

“…present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind…” Romans 12:1–2

“Be still, and know that I am God…” Psalm 46:10

1. Cast Your Burden on the Lord

“Casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7

“Cast your burden on the LORD, and He shall sustain you; He shall never permit the righteous to be moved.” Psalm 55:22

“And He said to me, ‘My grace is sufficient for you, for My strength is made perfect in weakness.” 2 Corinthians 12:9

1. Serve His Purpose & Shine Despite Struggles

“…that you may become blameless and harmless, children of God without fault in the midst of a crooked and perverse generation, among whom you shine as lights in the world…” Philippians 2:15

“We are hard pressed on every side, yet not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed.” 2 Corinthians 4:8–9

“And we know that all things work together for good to those who love God…” Romans 8:28

1. Be Thankful at All Times

“In everything give thanks; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.” 1 Thessalonians 5:18

“…giving thanks always for all things to God the Father in the name of our Lord Jesus Christ…” Ephesians 5:20

1. Pray Always

“Pray without ceasing.” 1 Thessalonians 5:17

“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything by prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, let your requests be made known to God; and the peace of God…will guard your hearts and minds in Christ Jesus.” Philippians 4:6–7

Spend Time In Communion With God

When God becomes real to you, your life will change. Be alone with Him. Talk to Him. Thank Him for what He has already done. Listen to Him.

1. 1. 1. Be Honest with God. Pour out your heart. Jesus cried out in Gethsemane—so can you. Transparency with God invites healing.
    2. Worship Through the difficulty. Be Thankful for everything you have. Worship silences the lies of the enemy and reminds your soul who’s in charge. Worship breaks chains—even in the midnight hour (Acts 16:25).
    3. Seek Wisdom. Ask What and How, Not Why. Instead of asking “Why me?”, ask
      - “What are You wanting me to learn, Lord?”
      - “What ungodly thoughts and beliefs am I holding that brought this on or are making things worse?
      - “How can I imitate Christ and bring you glory through this?”
      - How would you like me to approach this trial?

Stay in Community

Surround yourself with believers who will pray with you, speak truth over you, and hold you up when you’re weary.

Where Can You Learn More?

These powerful voices teach deeply about trials, growth, and spiritual maturity:

Dan Mohler (Neck Ministries)– Known for clarity in God’s purpose through us, and transformation in our lives through communion with Him.

1. - - Trials Reveal What You Believe < Video>
    - How to respond to trials: <Video>
    - How to resist the devil: <Video>
    - Stand Firm On The Rock, Don’t Be Shaken By Life https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xDqTyFcq2A0

Charles Stanley (In Touch Ministries) – Teaches on trusting God through adversity.

1. - - Wisdom for Life’s Trials – https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Vb7bY50_t_A

Joyce Meyer – Often speaks on emotional healing and growing through difficult seasons.

1. - - Embrace your Trials to Produce Wisdom: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z9xQczCTatk
    - Let Life’s Trials Make You Stronger: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pRReUQy1oJI

Charles Spurgeon – “The Purpose of Trials” (sermon compilation)

Final Thought

God doesn’t waste pain. Every trial is an invitation to transformation. It’s in the fire that impurities burn off and true identity is revealed. So the next time you’re in a trial, remember: This isn’t to break you—it’s to build you. Let God use it to expose the real you, and grow you into the person He’s always known you could be.